There are many motivations for choosing to have children, and there are as many or more for the choice to remain childfree, some of the reasons that people choose to remain childfree are...
*Lack of desire for children (my main reason) *Lack of a compelling reason to have children *General dislike of children and/or their behavior *Seeing the effects of children on family/friends (one of hubbies reasons) *Lack of maternal/paternal instincts *Unwillingness to conform to the obligations of socially defined gender roles *Contentment with enjoyment of pets (this is one of ours) *Not wanting to sacrifice privacy/personal space for children *Not wanting to sacrifice time for children *Not wanting to commit to increased financial responsibility or burden or unable to afford the costs. *Belief that childbearing would reduce career advancement *Fear of loss of employment or health insurance, for instance because of lack of parental leave *Belief that parenthood will someday be disliked by oneself *Belief that maintaining a certain level of emotional intimacy and physical intimacy with partner will not be possible with the presence of children *Perceived or actual incapacity to be a responsible and patient parent *Maintaining freedom of personal choice *Prefer to maintain ability to change career or city of residence at short notice (spontaneous population or social mobility) *Concern for safety of parent or child *The risk that an existing medical condition, such as diabetes, depression or the development of ectopic pregnancy could result in a dangerous or difficult pregnancy, or difficulty in raising the child (another of my own reasons) *Fear of maternal or infant mortality *Concern that the child would inherit a hereditary disease (no concern, I know it would) *Low availability of high quality and affordable childcare *Fear and/or revulsion towards the physical condition of pregnancy, the childbirth experience, and recovery (for example the erosion of physical desirability). *Fear of child abuse or domestic violence. *Belief that one can make a greater contribution to humanity through one's work than through having children *Belief that people tend to have children for the wrong reasons *Belief that it is wrong to bring a child into the world if the child is unwanted *Belief that it is wrong to intentionally have a child when there are so many children available for adoption *Concern regarding environmental impacts such as overpopulation, pollution, and resource scarcity *Belief that if both parents choose their careers over parenting a baby, it is not good parenting and/or fair to a child, or believing that their particular career would prevent them from being a good parent *Antinatalism, the belief that it is inherently immoral to bring people into the world e.g. in order to prevent suffering in a child's life. *A sense of realism about the negative, competitive, declining condition of the world and culture and not subjecting a child to those negative conditions *Concerns that calamitous events (e.g., global warming effects, war, or famine) might be likely to occur within the lifetime of one's children and cause their suffering and/or death *View of childbearing and resultant parenting role as a heteronormative social construct which subjugates by restricting lifestyle options and possibilities for personal advancement.
We all make choices in life that effect our future, some make the choice to remain ChildFree, other after having a child wish that they had never dun so and then there are those who are glad that they did have children. Regardless of your reasons for having or not having children its your personal choice and no one else's.
It is a sham that one does have to fell a fib to get something which one does wont which can effects one life oh so well.
I got lucky, I asked for a hysterectomy and I got it (though it did take several years before I got it - had to be 30 before GYN would do it without questions).
WELL THINGS MAY HAVE CHANGED BY NOW. I GOT MY ALMOST 30 YEARS AGO. I HAVE JUST NEVER WANTED KIDS. AND WHEN I WAS DATING I ONLY DATED WOMEN THAT DID NOT WANT ANY.
When I was dating, I always made it a point of being upfront of being ChildFree if they didn't like it then it was their issue not mine - meant there were very few dates that I went on.
THE PROBLEM THAT I ALWAYS RAN INTO WAS FINDING SOMEONE THAT DID NOT ALREADY HAVE A KID OR KIDS. OR THEY WOULD CHANGE THERE MIND SOMETIME INTO THE RELATION. AND ONE TIME A GIRL I WAS DATING TOLD ME SHE WAS PREGGERS. SHE WAS SHOCKED WHEN SHE FOUND OUT THAT I COULD NOT HAVE KIDS.
Ouch, guess you know what she was doing on the side with you then if it couldn't be yours - hubby had the same deal happen to him a while back before we ever meet a girl tried to pull that on him.
I actually did get in the way, lost it before I even new I had it - talk about mother nature smiling down on me for that one.
I never dated a guy who though that they could change my mind about the matter, but a couple of the girls I dated though they might be able to change my mind.
IT SEEMS TO HAPPEN MORE AND MORE. WHERE I AM AT NOW THERE ARE VERY FEW WOMEN THAT DON'T HAVE KIDS. AND A LOT OF MY FRIENDS WON'T DATE WOMEN WITH KIDS BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT TO GET ATTACHED THEN HAVE TO GO THROUGH A BREAK UP. ON A SIDE NOTE YOU ARE THE FIRST PERSON I HAVE MET THAT PUT FURRY ON THERE PROFILE. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!
I can understand the idea of not wishing to date anyone with a child incase things don't work out, its a valid reason for not doing so, so good for them for knowing the damage it can do long term.
I've always put that I'm furry in my profiles, twitter or what have you. I've never made any bones about it. The few people who have had an issue with it well its always been their issue, never mine.
I've made my choice A long time ago N will stick by it I don't want any kids period!! The only kid(s) I want are of the four legged type only thank you very much I had to raise my three sisters kids I'm not wanting to have my own and have them turn out to be like the un-greatful lil bratz my sis. has turned out to be
There is no reason that any child of your blood would turn out as your sister's children have, less you believe that its in the genes in which case how did you get the luck to not be like them since you share the same mother and father.
I think its environmental in how a child turns out in many regards, though some times I also think its luck of the draw when it comes to some people and how they grow up to have a better life outlook then those they grow up with.
I got lucky, I asked for a hysterectomy and I got it (though it did take several years before I got it - had to be 30 before GYN would do it without questions).
I actually did get in the way, lost it before I even new I had it - talk about mother nature smiling down on me for that one.
I never dated a guy who though that they could change my mind about the matter, but a couple of the girls I dated though they might be able to change my mind.
ON A SIDE NOTE YOU ARE THE FIRST PERSON I HAVE MET THAT PUT FURRY ON THERE PROFILE. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!
I've always put that I'm furry in my profiles, twitter or what have you. I've never made any bones about it. The few people who have had an issue with it well its always been their issue, never mine.
The only kid(s) I want are of the four legged type only thank you very much I had to raise my three sisters kids I'm not wanting to have my own and have them turn out to be like the un-greatful lil bratz my sis. has turned out to be
I think its environmental in how a child turns out in many regards, though some times I also think its luck of the draw when it comes to some people and how they grow up to have a better life outlook then those they grow up with.